Watch your mouth.

    "Shut your mouth! I'm talking...." Ok stop right there thats the problem. So many of us waste words, breath, time and emotion just talking. We talk all the time but we aren't really saying anything. Or what we do say is nothing of importance. For me, my  own speech downfall is I don't consider my words enough before they spew out of my mouth. Lately I have putting my foot in my mouth in the worst way. I'm a fixer, a tweaker, one who tries to mend. And recently with a few people ( friends and family ) in an attempt to "fix" a problem I have just said the wrong thing constantly and repeatedly. For an example when having a charged conversation with someone I texted the words good bye. I meant ok, talk to you later. They misunderstood this completely  and took it as if I was giving them a shove off. I am an overly emotional person and this can come out in speech to. I have been known to talk a subject to death, when I am emotionally involved. And this leads to annoying headaches, for me and the people I care about. Here are some lessons that I have learned over the last 2-3 weeks of linguistic letdowns.

Steves Rules for Speech

• Think before you open your pie hole. Consider what effect the words you are about to say will have on the person who will hear them. Words have power.
• When angry or otherwise emotionally charged take a step back and breath. Don't be afraid to tell someone " Hey You know what I think we should talk about this later." The things said in the heat of the moment can be the most damaging.
• Consider if you really need to be talking about whatever you are about to say. Do you really need to have a deep discussion with your friend, because they said something ,YOU misconstrued? Is it worth your time and theirs? 
• DON'T TEXT TO MUCH INFO! No! just don't! Trust me. Your friend or even your own mother may not have time to read a text about how you are worried about the way things between you have been different. Text messages are meant to quick little bleeps of information. Things like "Hey Movie Tonight"? Or "dont 4get milk 2%. Are fine and acceptable. For the love of God dont text more than 3 sentences, And don't text about things that should be said face to face. Don't ask your cousin Bill for advice about you divorce over a text. Call or wait to see him in person. When texting just keep it to facts. Because you can't read subtext in a text. It can sound sarcastic or funny or mean. All depends on how the person reading the message interprets it. Also give someone time to respond. Just because you're just chilling at home getting ready to indulge in at least an hour of self abuse doesn't mean the person you're sending a text to has that much time on their hands. Give them time to see it and write back.
• Don't repeat yourself. Do you find yourself having the same conversation over and over again? Why? Is there a lesson you refuse to acknowledge? 

     These are just some rules you should follow when talking. I can not stress the texting rules enough. Just be considerate, take your time, and think before you speak.