Tuesday, October 21, 2014
Going Tribal.
So basically its your bros or hos that you workout, run, or diet with. According to the research presented in the book simply put, you do better with a support group. Surrounding yourself with a group of like minded people creates a support system, that can prove invaluable. Having people that can back you up and with whom to share knowledge with and be accountable to gives you a better shot at succeeding on your fitness journey.
I know that for myself I feel more inspired to go to the gym and keep on my diet when I have people overseeing me. Not saying I want people to tell me what to do or hold my hand. No, I mean just having people that I can have at my back or share both triumphs and letdowns with. It helps. Also helpful is having individuals that you can turn to for advice when your unsure of what you're doing. I often feel clueless about exercise, so I am fortunate enough to have some friends I can ask about it. Sure, you can look stuff up online, and that can be very helpful. But being able to talk to someone, one on one and get feedback as to if your form is right or if this routine works or what not can be crucial to your success.
Its not just support that helps if you have a Fitness Tribe, it can be a lot of fun to do fun healthy activities together. When I go to the gym, I love having someone to go with. I dont need them to be next to me on the treadmill or even helping with the weights. I find it fun to be able to just say "Hey you see the res and sets I just did with the weights.?" Or even enjoying an achievement they may have had. Going jogging, trail running, biking or any other such activity with somebody else 1) Gives you someone to chat with so you do not get bored. 2) It gives you someone to compete against and gage your skills. In short it makes exercising fun.
Im going to take the advice found in the book and try to put together a Fitness Tribe of my own. I have had success in the past when I have friends on the journey from Fatman to Batman with me before and I can definitely use some more. Whats your Tribe like?
Tuesday, October 7, 2014
Basically, Run you Clever Boy!
Color Me Rad is important to me because its the event that inspired me to take up running. Roughly 3 years ago my friend Cindy had posted on Facebook that she was going to run the CMR and was very excited about it. I looked it up as I was curious. It looked amazing. I posted a link to it on FB and said that I would love to do this someday but there was no way I could. My friend Amy asked me why not and suggested that I join her at the Spac Rock and Run that year. After talking to my buddy Rob who said that the only way I would know if I could do it or not is if I tried, I signed up. In spite of my apprehension at what I thought would be me making a fool of myself I so much fun. After the race I first experienced what is known as a runners high. I found myself swearing that I would run a 10k in a couple of months, followed by a marathon. Thankfully everyone knew that twas the adrenaline rush talking and didn't hold me to it.
Because of that run I went on to do the Firecracker 4 where I beat my Rock and Run time. And I also went on to do the Rock and Run again, where I had my best runtime ever of 38 minutes. My success at these events spring from my wanting to do the Color Me Rad. So when I heard that it was coming to town I had to do it. Next year I plan on doing it again but this time with a few people and running at a better pace. It was nice to come full circle in a sense. I had a chance to see just how far Ive come from the Fatman wishing he could do a run, to getting up off the couch and doing them.
Tuesday, September 9, 2014
News.
I want to thank you for being so patient with me being lazy with my blog. But I got some news coming to you. I'm going to be changing the name of my blog. While going from a Fatman to Batman is still my goal, I don't want to get sued for copyright. So a name change is in order. At the moment I have no idea what it will be called. Please feel free to send suggestions to my email stevenbelsito77@gmail.com with the word name in the heading.
I'm also going to be changing and adding some new things to the blog. Once a month I want to interview people who are changing their lives with fitness. Whether its mind, body or spiritual growth I want to learn. My first interview will be with a yogi. She will be explaining what yoga is and how it can help you. I want to do more things like this so we will see where it goes. I will be adding recipes, workouts and my misadventures as I travel the road from Fatman to..............well I don't know yet. Send your name suggestion's.
Fatman to Batman Montreal 5k.
Tuesday, August 5, 2014
Thank You.
"Gratitude is the inward feeling of kindness received. Thankfulness is the natural impulse to express that feeling. " -Henry Van Dyke
I realized that I have been horribly remiss in thanking people for all their help with my Go Fund Me campaign. But also I have never really thanked the people who help me everyday, and have honestly been the best group of friends anyone can have. I have been very lucky and blessed to know these people. They help inspire me to continue on this difficult and often times frustrating path I have laid before myself. So Im going to thank them all in no order in particular. And if I forget anyone forgive me, I know a lot of awesome people.
You guys are the reason I find strength to keep doing this. So while I hear from many people that I inspire them somehow, you are the people who inspire me. Thanks to you I can do this. You are the ones who make me want to ditch the Fatman and become the Batman.
Sunday, July 27, 2014
Giving Ho Hum the Heave Ho.
I went from
To
I just got my stuff and left.
I was talking to my best friend about it later. I was so mad and embarrassed that it wasnt funny. "forget it I quit, I don't know what I'm doing, and I can't do it." were just some of the crazy things I was saying/feeling. My body took no damage but my very fragile ego was cracked. My buddies response? Well it was more or less, "See Ho Hum." (He was referencing a conversation earlier in the day we had about me amping up my gym workout. He had said stop being so Ho Hum and bust my ass if I really wanna do this. He was right. I was being Ho Hum) "You can either be the joke or embrace the joke". He pointed out. I was a bit annoyed at the time that he didn't see how shattering this was. Sometimes my vanity knows no bounds. After giving it some thought ( and more sulking time than I want to admit ) I saw that my friend was right. So here I am admitting that I nearly busted my rear end checking a cute girl out on a treadmill. If I'm gonna share my triumphs then in all fairness I should share my fails.
Tomorrow I'm going back to the gym, and I'm giving the ho hums the heave ho. I may avoid the treadmill for a bit though. I learned not to take yourself SO seriously. (one of my biggest faults!) I am a big guy and I wear Batman shirts to the gym. I should be aware that I stand out a bit when I work out. At least this time it was for an attempt at being athletic and flirting. And part of ditching the ho hums is increasing my productivity at the gym while I am there. Come out sweating and heaving or don't go. So I guess I may have to jump back on the treadmill, if I wanna take my own advice huh? Damn it!
Tuesday, July 22, 2014
So Steve? What's up with the Batman Thing?
Tomorrow is National Batman Day. This character who turns 75 this year has inspired a lot of people over the years. Me (as you well know) being one of them. I get asked often "What's the deal with the whole Batman thing"? My friend Brad once asked " Is it a sexual thing?" No it isn't. (Although I will say that for those who it is, there are at least two adult movies I'm aware of that they should see. For me it was just way too weird. Porn based on the Adam West Batman is just.......wrong.) For me, as a kid my love of Batman started because I could be Batman. He had no superpowers, just some really cool toys. I didn't need to be from another planet, I didn't need to be bitten by a spider. I could be a guy who runs around doing cool things in an awesome costume. As I got older the character changed and so did I. He got darker, edgier. And I liked that. I enjoyed the fact that he was as crazy as his villains. Something about it spoke to me. I also loved the fact that Bruce Wayne was the secret identity, not Batman. As someone who has always hidden my true self in the past I understood this. Hey we all wear masks.
So what made me use Batman as motivation for weight loss? Its easy. Batman is just a dude. A dude who worked his ass off to attain physical perfection. Sure he is loaded, and can afford the best toys. But that doesnt matter.My reasons are the same as when I was a child. I can be Batman. With an incredible amount of hard work I too can become more than I am. (There is even a book about what it would take to be Batman, what you would have to be able to do and such. ) Batman has cool toys in his cave that help him fight crime. I have cool toys at the gym that help me fight my own battle. He has an awesome costume that causes fear to criminals. I have some cool shirts that inspire me, and help me conquer my fear of being seen lifting in public. Batman has assistants that aide him in his quest. I have some amazing friends who support me as I embark on mine. Batman is a great example that when you put your mind to something and give it your all. Surrender your body, heart and soul to your goal and you can succeed. This gives me hope and an example to follow. I used Batman as an inspiration just yesterday. I was running on the elliptical and was trying to get a 5k in 30 minutes. I was getting tired and kinda just wanted to stop. I looked down at the Bat Symbol on my shirt and thought " What would Batman Do?" He would keep at it. So I played a game with myself and ran as if I was chasing a criminal. And you know what I ran a 5k in 29.02 minutes. That is my new best time. I felt amazing. Use what inspires you. I hope you all have a great National Batman Day tomorrow. Do something you think you can't, be your own hero.
Thursday, July 17, 2014
Fatman and The Frustration Conundrum.
So I was feeling a bit proud because I have been getting some great compliments about how I look. And because I know I've lost some weight because my clothes fit me a lot better. So feeling like a million bucks I hopped up on the scale to see where I was at, in just a towel to get a fair reading. I have a wager with friends and needed to see where I was. I expected to see at least a 5 pound weight loss. I fiddled with the machine until it needle rested. 291! WHAT? 291? According to the scale not only did I not lose any weight from the last weigh, but I gained a pound. NOT POSSIBLE! I said to myself. I was livid. I knew that I had done very well. I did everything right. Yes I had the occasional food from the naughty list but not to the effect I was seeing here. I went out and still did my workout but my enthusiasm for the day was shot.
I sat on the bench in the locker room livid texting my best friend before I showered. I was still so mad that I was legit holding back tears. I felt like I was failing hardcore. I am working so hard to not fail at this. I have tried before, done well and then slipped back to bad habits.To his credit, (and this is why he is my best friend) he let me fume for a while, bitch, rant whine and moan at him, then he told me to stop being so damn negative. Rob assured me that I'm not failing, that I'm just packing on muscle. I told him that I was giving this almost everything I had in me. " Then give it everything!" he responded. After I had my manic meltdown I paused and realized he was right. Muscle is heavier than fat. I don't how much FAT, but I know for sure that I have lost a lot. Rob is right I havent failed I have been succeeding the whole time. Just last night he and my friends Brad and Steph even looked at me and remarked at tmy slimming down.
My point to this is don't beat yourself up like I did. Your body is going to fluctuate. you will have days where its up and where its down. Also educate yourself a bit more than I did about what happens during weight loss and weight lifting. I have turned my anger into rededication and educating myself on nutrition and how to get the most out of my workouts. Let your anger fuel you in cases like this. DONT GIVE IN TO YOUR INNER FATMAN. Times when you are weak are when he is strongest. Do what I did and get in touch with you team and get some back up. I wanna thank my team for always being there. Also the lovely ladies I work with because they reassured me as well that I'm not failing. Peace out friends.
Wednesday, July 9, 2014
Something New.
Then my friend suggested we make our own 5k. This idea appealed to me instantly. The three of us will be wearing our own Fatman to Batman custom made shirts while we run. So now we are working on a course to run our last day there. We are looking at having our run finish at the Mount Royal Summit which is a famous overlook in the Mount Royal Park in Montreal.
As money has been tight, I'm using Go Fund Me to try to get some of the money to go. It all goes to covering the expenses of the trip. I'm putting a link to the page below please take some time and check it out. Any contributions are appreciated. Pics of the shirts as well as of the course will be posted soon. Please feel free to share the page as well. Thanks guys, it you who make this journey Im on fun.
Fatman to Batman Montreal
Friday, July 4, 2014
Update.
Wednesday, June 18, 2014
He shoots, He scores, He made the game winning goal.
Wednesday, June 11, 2014
That moment.
So where did my journey start? Lol to be honest its hard to say. I guess the point that made me think about going to the gym and getting in better shape is when a friend asked me if I wanted to go the gym with him. Go to the gym? I had made a very successful career in high school of avoiding the gym. Being an extremely overweight shy guy locker rooms were terrifying to me. ( Plus being a teenager you never knew when you would throw a bone. I mean the wind blows the right way and you're excited. I don't know how teenage boys function at all when most of the time there is very little blood in the head.....the one on their shoulders. But I digress.) But I decided to go, shocking even myself.
When we got there I felt so out of place that it wasn't even funny. In the locker room I made a careful case study of the inside of the locker as I changed, making eye contact with NO ONE. Then when we went into the gym itself, its how Robin must have felt when Batman first showed him the cave. "What are all these machines?" "How do I use them?" "And Jesus I hope I don't make a fool of myself". Were all thoughts that went through my head. I kinda just shadowed my buddy as he went about his routine. It was fun but nerve wracking. I was convinced everyone was looking at me. They had to be thinking "Whats this fatso doing here?" I again avoided eye contact and spoke to one but my bud. I went a few more times with my friend and ended up getting my own membership there. I didn't enjoy it but I still went sometimes. I received a surprise when I took a fitness test and I was told that my bulk was 80% muscle. I showed my friend the results as I was still unsure of what all the fitness mumbo jumbo meant. But yeah I was stronger than I looked. I wont be lifting any cars over my head, nor do I have the proportional strength of a spider but ok.
I was still unsure of what I was doing and felt out of place but I was assured that everyone felt the same way. Another friend pointed out that the mirrors in the back weren't so people could watch you, but so they could watch themselves. Turns out we are all vain. l kept feeling like an ill fit. Then out of nowhere it hit me. Just go. Who cares if you don't fit in. You can't be exceptional if you want to be like everyone else. So I put on my Batman Under Armour shirt hopped on a machine and did some cardio. I stopped worrying what I thought people were thinking about me and just went to it. And I have loved it.
So thats my turning point. When I agreed to go the gym with my friend, I couldn't have known what it would eventually lead to. Some awesome changes I have taken note of are the following.
-I have a lot more energy. Like I drive myself nuts with looking for things to do to eat up some energy.
-My back is no longer sore all the time.
-Im in a better mood.
-I sleep SOOOOOOOO much better.
-Confidence is way up.
Try it yourself. Start working out at least 10 minutes each day. And you will notice a change. Also what was the turning point for you in your life? What made you choice to live a healthier lifestyle? I would love to hear from you. Peace out.
Tuesday, May 27, 2014
Secret Origin of Fatman.
My tale is like that of many others. I was an adolescent when Fatman first came to be. At the tender age 12 or 13 my family moved from the apartment we lived in, where I had many friends my age to play with. And we moved to a place where the were no kids my own age. I had to begin a new school where I didn't fit in. Always shy and quiet my inability to make friends easily made me the target of teasing and bullying. My already weak sense of self worth and confidence didn't allow me to handle this situation. I was forced to turn to food in place of friends. Highly intelligent I knew this was not a good way to handle this, but the momentary rush you receive from a candy bar or cheeseburger had me hooked. If you can't be happy all the time then those stolen moments of joy are worth it right? Well thats what I allowed myself to believe. I soon found my body growing and I gained new abilities. I could now sit on the couch and zone out with a bag of chips and soda for hours. I learned that if I sucked my stomach in I could just squeeze into pants that had fit me before. I soon realized that I didn't know my own strength. I found that if I flopped down onto my bed then I could possibly break the slats underneath. My new gifts scared me. But not enough to give up on my new secret weapon against loneliness. I learned one more ability that I now had. I was functionally invisible. No one looks twice at the fat guy as they pass him in the hall. He blends in with scenery. Eventually I submerged myself in the hedonistic pleasures of food and thats when Fatman wobbled in and took control of my life.
For more years than I care to admit I allowed myself to live in such an unhappy state that I eventually fell into a state of depression. I was unable to do any of the things that I wanted. People talked about hiking, sports or even going to a theme park and getting on the rides. And dating? Forget it. None of these were an viable option for me. I drifted, alone and miserable. Then something extraordinary happened. I was working in the cafe in the local bookstore when someone noticed me. Not Fatman but me, Steve. It was shocking. At first it was Zen Master Rockstar. Others soon joined the ranks much to my surprise. Church Boy Guitar Hero, The Mad Vegan Chemist, The Boy Who Loved Ks and
The
Honest
Hombre were just some of the agents who inspired my metamorphosis. Family members joined in and became reserve members of Team Steve. They showed me that there was more to life than I was allowing myself. Some of these people have moved onto other teams but I still owe them much for the lessons they gave me.
I soon found myself hiking mountains, both figuratively and literally. I was going out and having fun. It was amazing to have people who I cared about and whom cared about me. I lost 70 pounds and had changed my eating habits. I was finally learning to Be. I soon found myself doing strange and amazing things. I ran a 5k on a whim. Two months later I ran a 4 mile run through town. I was being active in front of hundreds of people. And I was well known through town. I was greeted by many people as I walked the streets. As with many others who face new challenges I slipped back into old habits and soon entered a depressed state, and gained back some of that weight. But soon found that the bonds of friendship and family were stronger than the death grip that The Fatman had on me. I have come back even stronger now. I have run another 5k and beat my time on the first one I ran. I was cheered on by a crowed as Batman and hugged by a small child for my stellar choice in running attire. Im planning on doing other runs. Im going to the gym and chiseling away the unwanted fat to get to the man underneath that others have seen. I am asking people for help and advice.I have been eating so much better and even cut back on alcohol. I finally see the man I am destined to become. And I am not letting Fatman win anymore. Its a long hard fight between him and I. He is tricky and smart, his voice is loudest when I am weak. But with friends and family whom I want to make proud, Nieces and Nephews I want to be around to inspire and harrass I can't let him win. Most importantly I can't disappoint myself. Goodbye Fatman, Hello Batman.